Post by K'Sennia Visitor on Jul 9, 2018 20:37:32 GMT
24/7: When a BDSM relationship is a full time commitment.
ABDL: Adult Baby Diaper Love - when one partner lives and acts like a baby, including using diapers and needing to be changed, drinking milk from a bottle, etc, will usually involve some domestic discipline, taken-in-hand, spanking stuff, too.
Abrasion Play: A BDSM activity when something rough, like sandpaper is brushed across the skin leaving marks.
Adult Discipline: When an adult asks another adult to use corporal punishment on them as a means of therapy and not for sexual gratification.
Aftercare: When the Dom/Domme takes care of their sub after a play/sex scene. They hold and cuddle them, praise them for how well they did, and make sure they're okay. This will often involve using salves and lotions to heal any wounds inflicted to take away some of the pain. This can also be part of a Domestic Discipline or even Adult Discipline.
Age Play: Where one partner acts a lot younger than their age, perhaps like a flirty teen, or a young child, or even a baby, and the other partner takes care of them and acts like their parent.
Anal Sex: Sex with or through the anus
Anal Hook: A hook placed in the anus to which a suspension cord is tied.
Anal Torture: Torture inflicted on the anus.
Anal Training: Slowly stretching the anus so that more and more fun things can be inserted inside.
Androgyny: Expressing both male and female traits
Anilingus: Anal Sex
Animal Play: When one partner dresses up and acts like an animal. Pony Play is popular in Femdom.
Algolagnia: Feeling sexual pleasure through pain
Alpha Male: A dude who is strong and controlling and very sexy and handsome, usually rich - may be a werewolf, and the leader of his pack.
Alpha Female: A woman who is strong and controlling and very sexy and beautiful, usually rich - may be Ursula, Queen of the Merfolk.
Auralism: Being aroused by sound.
Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation: When someone enjoys being strangled for sexual pleasure.
Backdoor: See Anal.
Baggins: Suffocation via a bag over the head.
Beta male: A man who is very sweet, and sensitive, a real caretaker, nurturer sort - who can still be be tough and strong when the need arises, but who prefers to make love, not war.
Beta female: A woman who is very sweet, and sensitive, a real caretaker, a nurturer sort - who can still be tough and strong when the need arises, but who prefers to make love, not war.
BDSM: Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism - it can be a play scene or a long-term relationship. One half is dominant and likes to be in control and be obeyed. He or She generally enjoys spanking and torturing people, but can also be very loving and have good intentions for their submissive. It depends on what your audience wants. The other half is the submissive who genuinely enjoys and needs to be dominated, punished, and humiliated on a regular basis. The amount and severity of submissiveness, again depends on what your audience wants. You could have a rich billionaire woman who is generally always in charge, but who likes to on the weekends give up all control to her dominant secretary.
Body Worship: to worship every part of your dom's body through kissing, licking, rubbing, lubing, etc.
BORK: Ball Out Risky Kink: When no safety measures or caution or good sense are used and participants participate in dangerous activities for fun!
Bottom: The partner who is usually on the bottom and receiving end of sex. Used a lot in gay sex.
Consent: When each partner is very enthusiastic and eager to have sex with each other.
Cunt: the vagina.
Dogging: Having sex in the backseat of a car while others are watching.
Dom: A Male Dominant
Domestic Discipline: When one married partner agrees to let the other use corporal punishment on them when they disobey or don't otherwise live up to the other person's standards. This is a willing partnership, with both people agreeable and even happy with their roles.
Domme: A Female Dominant.
Dubcon - Dubious Consent, where one partner doesn't really want to have sex, but is coerced/lightly blackmailed into it, but then once it starts they give in fully. Rape and Non-consent are against amazon and most other bookstores TOS, so dubcon is used instead to try and include the thrill of being forced into sex, but without them actually being forced. It's a hard line to cross, and dubcon books can still get you in trouble, or simply be declined for inclusion in a store.
Edging: When you stimulate your partner up to the edge of orgasm, then stop. You do this over and over until they think they're gonna die, and then let them cum. It's a technique to prolong orgasm and make them that much more grateful for the privilege.
Erectomania: Insatiable Sexual Desire
Faunoiphilia: Getting horny watching animals have sex.
Femdom: When the woman is the Domme and the male is the sub, much less popular than Femsub.
Femsub: When the woman is the sub and male is the Dom.
Foot Worship: Because some readers have a foot fetish.
Golden Showers: Being peed on for sexual gratification. My cat pees on me all the time, but sadly I don't get anything out of it.
Intersex: Having both male and female genitalia, or genitalia that is unambiguously male or female
Lube: Any liquid used to makes sex, especially anal, more pleasurable.
Maledom: Male dom, fem sub.
Malesub: A male submissive and a female domme.
Masturbation: Rubbing and stimulating your genitals by yourself until you cum.
MC: Motorcycle Club - bikers are very popular Alpha, bad boy characters.
Mound: the outer, sometimes hairy part of a woman's genital area
Mutual Masturbation: When two or more people masturbate in front of each other.
Nantaimori: seeing and eating sushi off a male body.
Noncon/Rape - When one person or a gang of persons forcibly fucks someone. Is illegal and against all stores TOS, as far as I'm aware. This is a very common fantasy, especially for women, so it's a good one to write, but you'll prolly have to either try and make it dubcon, or code it for the readers so that a casual perusal by bots won't give you away. It's very risky though.
Nuzzling the fuzz: Female Masturbation. Take that amazon censors!
Nymphomia: Insatiable Sexual Desire in women.
Nyotaimori: Seeing and eating Sushi off of a naked woman.
Oculolinctus: Licking a partner's eyeball.
Onanera: Male masturbation.
OTK: Over The Knee for a spanking
Pony Play: When the man, usually, is gussied up like a horse and ridden around. He will often be harnessed to a wagon or carriage and forced to pull it like a horse.
Pussy: the vagina.
Quickie: A really quick fuck.
Relcon - Relative Consent. One partner is a little bit reluctant at first, but then gets into it later. An example might be a couple gets into a fight when the husband tries to kiss his wife. She pushes him off. He complains. They fight a bit, it gets physical, and then she starts to feel the passion and they fuck in earnest.
Rollies: A name for the testicles
Sapphosadism: A lesbian BDSM Relationship
Satryomania: Insatiable Sexual Desire in men.
Scarfing: Using a scarf for sexy fun times, usually for auto-erotic asphyxiation.
Shifter: A Supernatural creature who can shift from human into any other kind of animal.
Sub: submissive
Taken-In-Hand/TIH: Domestic Discipline, specifically spanking
Top: The one who takes the top position and calls the shots, used a lot in gay erotica.
Transgender: Someone who was born genetically one sex but who identifies as the opposite, they may have had top or bottom surgery to make their body fit how they see themselves, or they may not. Trans erotica is a popular fetish and is written a lot more crudely than erotica written for the transgender community, or for people who see the Transgender as real people who they happen to be attracted to, as opposed to those who see the Transgender as objects to wank off too. Be very clear in your marketing which audience you're writing for, you cannot write for both.
Undergrowth: Pubic Hair
Urolagnia: Being aroused by urine
Vagina: the thing you stick things in for sexual pleasure.
Vanilla: Penis-in-vagina sex behind closed doors with no one watching. The lights may be on or off.
Vulva: The outside parts of a lady's bits
Water Sports: Sexy fun with spraying urine
Xenodynamic: Someone is only aroused by complete strangers.
